What it really means to share your success with someone
Make space for success if you want to enhance your relationships and improve your own mood .
How do you think about success?
Celebrating early and often is a very strong indicator for goal performance. In coaching sessions I hear lots of false beliefs about celebration, from an all or nothing mindset that prevents early celebration, to equating success with something that happens to other people. Often success in synonymous with completition, but you don't have to wait. These beliefs create a success neglect mindset.
I'm always curious about the relationship we have with success, and here's what Annie Ridout, Journalist, author and poet said about success and being shy when I asked her
"promoting yourself, and your work, when you're shy can feel quite challenging. But the online world is an amazing space for this. It means you’re not being put on the spot, as you might be when talking to someone face-to-face. I think it’s worth remembering that we can share our success without appearing arrogant. So, for instance, rather than writing: I’m such an amazing writer, look at what I’ve achieved! You can write: I was so honoured to have an article published in X publication, I’ve read it for years and it feels like such a dream come true.
Also, I think most of us have a few people in mind when we’re sharing something online. People who we think may judge or criticise us. Firstly, it’s possible that we are wrong and that they either won’t notice or won’t care.Secondly, if they do explicitly judge you, they’re not the people whose opinions matter to you. You need to surround yourself by people who really do want you to succeed and feel excited when you do"
Annie Ridout - Author of Shy
Shy: How Being Quiet Can Lead to Success — www.amazon.co.uk
The way in which you share, respond and celebrate with the people in your network is an indicator of how connected and secure you feel.
And there's another process going on called capitalisation, to capitalise on success is literally to share with other people to benefit from the reactions they give you, because sharing leads to more positive emotions.